I heard that on Oprah the other day. I don't really watch, but with all of the crazy weather and ice days, I've had a lot more afternoon time on my hands. So anyway, it really hit home.
I've written about my "A-Ha!" moments and many struggles with forgiveness several times. You can read about a few instances here or here or here.
It's clear that forgiveness is hard for me. And I don't believe it's hard just for me, but it's a constant battle for a lot of people. It's not easy, but I don't think it is supposed to be. If you think about it-- People that are in need of my forgiveness have truly hurt or betrayed me. If they hadn't hurt me so badly, then what would I need to forgive them for? I know you're thinking, "Well DUH!" But seriously, forgiveness is ridiculously difficult. Ugh.
I do take positive steps daily. I have forgiven so many people because (as Oprah says), I really have given up the idea that my past could have been different. I don't WANT my past to change, because as cliche as it sounds, I wouldn't be where I am now. I got hurt badly in college several times, I had people let me down numerous times after that, I got my heart broken, I was even disappointed in people on my wedding day. But you know what-- The heartaches, disappointments, college days, and even my recent wedding are in my PAST. So, I choose to move forward. I choose to look at my future and forget about the regrets and painful moments of my past. It's not worth my time any more.
Forgiveness and me... We're working on our relationship together. It's been a long process, but we're doing better and better every day.
Thanks for your insight, Oprah. :)
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